Nick & Lourdes

Nick & Lourdes have been together for 10 years and married for four years. 

How did you meet?

Nick and I met while bowling with family and friends. At the time of our encounter, Nick had asked a family friend about me and right away he wanted to take me out. He sent me two dozen roses to my house with a white teddy bear. When I called to thank him, I gently told him I was seeing someone else and he was a total gentleman about it and we hung up. Five years later, I see Nick in Las Vegas at a CES Electronic Show. We said hello and that was it. That same year around Thanksgiving I was a single gal with no commitments. My sister and her husband invited Nick to their house (I assumed this was setup) I was surprised to see him again after our last encounter in January. It was destined to be. We didn’t really speak much that day as I’m a shy person, but Nick always maintained a good friendship with my sister and they were catching up and sure enough he invited her out to grab a bite after the Thanksgiving holiday and my sister invited me and I joined in. As I sat in the back seat of his red BMW, I see Nick adjusting his front view mirror to look at me and all of a sudden the song, “Here without you” by 3 Doors down started playing and he just kept staring at me. Here is the intro and the chorus of the song:

A hundred days have made me older

 Since the last time that I saw your pretty face

 A thousand lies have made me colder

 And I don't think I can look at this the same

 But all the miles that separate

 Disappear now when I'm dreaming of your face

I'm here without you baby

 But you're still on my lonely mind

 I think about you baby

 And I dream about you all the time

 I'm here without you baby

 But you're still with me in my dreams

 And tonight it's only you and me

It was such a nice song and it almost felt as if this was a sign from the Universe letting me know this could be your soul-mate. The “Trio” as we called ourselves went out a few times and I remember asking my sister one night if she was interested in Nick and she said, “NO” and I said, “good cause I AM”. Our “Trio” dates suddenly disintegrated and Nick called me directly to invite me out with him to do some Christmas shopping and in the parking lot of the Mall he was straight forward with me and told me he was interested in getting to know me further and the rest is history…

Tell me a little bit about your partner and what made you decide that they were a keeper?

Nick is a charmer, a magnet who will attract you to him. He is very friendly and sociable. Nick is a true gentleman who is lovable, meticulous, organized and most importantly family oriented. Being very neat and family oriented were very important qualities I wanted in a man. My mom always used to tell me that the man that treats his mother like a queen will treat his wife the same way and that quote stayed with me. Mom was right‼! My husband puts his family first above everything and after 10yrs together I am still treated like a Queen. God does listen to your prayers and sent me exactly the man I always wished for at the right time. I am very blessed and happy. I can say I live a good, quality of life.    

Were there any obstacles/hurdles in the way of your relationship and if so, how did you overcome them? My husband wanted me to move in with him after dating for only three months. I was very skeptical about making the move, because we were only dating for such a short time, but he wanted to know for sure if we would be good together. He told me the best way to get to know someone is when you live with them, that’s when you really get to see all of their imperfections and if you can withstand those imperfections then it’s a “match”. And, he also mentioned to me that he had never been married and he wanted to do it once in his lifetime as his parents have been married for 34 years. Nick had never asked any other girl to move in with him before so I was feeling special. I did make the move, and while I was adjusting to life in NJ coming from NY, I gave it my all because this man stole my heart.  

What are your future goals for you and your partner?

My future goals with Nick are to continue to create many more memories together, with or without children, to travel the world and grow old together. 

What do you think it takes to make a relationship work?

In my opinion, a good recipe to make a relationship work is dedication, taking time to really get to know your partner, communication, if there is a problem, having a resolution, having a mutual understanding, supporting your partner in good times and bad times; loving each other, having patience, respect, trust and loyalty. That to me are the ingredients to make a solid foundation that will be unbreakable.  

I am very blessed to say that I have found all of these things with my husband. We talk about everything. He is my best friend, my better half. I can easily go to my husband for support or advice when I have needed him the most in my happiest moments and in my times of despair; he has been so amazing to me. He has been that magnetic force that keeps me going and God really sent me someone that would take care of me and for that I am so grateful. We know each other so well – we can definitely tell when something is bothering one or the other. I can say that we compliment each other.